Wholesome Wednesday | Comparison

Y’all. My daughter was mocked for her ‘wal-mart’ shoes by some kids at school. My super friendly, beautiful and outgoing 10 year old had her feelings hurt and it broke my heart.

I remember those days. I remember wanting the latest fashion. I remember being insecure at times. My big feet. Acne. That bad haircut. Warts. Being dropped off in high school by the parents. I mean, devastating, right?!

I saw tears on my daughter’s face and I wanted to hug her and go right out and buy her a brand spanking new pair of shoes. Not that she needed any. She has plenty. Nice ones, that don’t need to get dirty like those ‘wal-mart’ play shoes. However, that isn’t what I did.

It wasn’t the shoes that bothered her. Until then, she could have cared less. It was the feeling of comparison. Realizing that there was now something ‘noticeably different’ about her and she was feeling embarrassed.

Social acceptance is something we all, especially women, seem to struggle with. We compare ourselves to e.v.e.r.y.t.h.i.n.g around us and there is so much around us these days to make us feel inadequate.

When we do this, we are allowing Satan to attack our self-esteem. Satan wants the world to determine how we feel about ourselves, rather than God.

There is and should be something noticeably different about us, however. Maybe not as far as appearance, but our hearts and our actions. If we desire the things of the world, then we aren’t any different. We can’t stand out or shine His love and light on others.

1 Peter 3:3-4 says, “Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel—rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.”

The same day she was mocked, this was our morning scripture. Of course, this was not the first thing she thought of at that moment BUT it stuck with her when I reminded her of our morning scripture as she told me about it. And there’s more. Her bedtime devotion was about having courage when dealing with tough things that come our way and how the Lord is with us and for us. He will give us strength and He will comfort us. Amen!

God doesn’t love us because we are valuable. We are valuable because God loves us. He created us in his own image. (Gen 1:27)

This is the foundation of having good self-esteem and letting go of comparison. This is the only acceptance we need to allow our differences to make a difference.

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I thought long after her telling me about this and began to thank God. Yes, I thanked Him for allowing this to happen.

  • He allowed teaching moments. Those moments bring growth and maturity.
  • He assured me that I am valued by my daughter for her to comfortably come and talk to me.
  • He brought our family closer. Comfort. Prayer. Compassion. Encouragement. Scripture.
  • He has tested her faith to allow her light to shine in the way she responds to tough moments.
  • He has taught her humility, true self-esteem. {or at least began the teaching}
  • He showed us that He is there. {Bible verse that morning and devotion that evening}

Thank you, God!

I get it, this is not the last nor the biggest embarrassment she will ever face, but I thank God for giving her the strength from this one to face the next one with more confidence and more courage.

We are not promised that everything will be good for those who love the Lord. We are not guaranteed that we won’t face any difficulties (rather, the total opposite is taught in the Bible) But we are promised that “All things work together for good, according to His purpose.” Romans 8:28

Don’t let yourself get caught up in comparison to what Satan wants us to believe is the best for us. Don’t doubt your self worth by the world’s standards. Be confident of who you are in Christ because you are so wonderfully made by the creator of this universe… and He chose to create you.

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  1. Preach! I have a 6 year old daughter and turning these moments into life lessons, looking into the Word together, that’s the win. That’s when God shows up and builds His kingdom values in our kids. Praise God. Thanks for sharing this.

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    1. Aw, thank you and yes, I absolutely agree. Those teachable moments are going to prepare our children to be successful and Godly adults. Life is not easy and they learn what we take the time to teach… or they’ll learn what society teaches.
      I am thankful to have been ‘there’ physically, mentally and spiritually because I could have missed out on that if I wasn’t. ❤️ thanks for the comment – keep up your good parenting! 😊

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  2. Amen! I’m so thankful that God knew what would happen that day and prepared her with the morning devotion and sent her to sleep with encouragement of courage. It is true! He is wonderful at the opportunities He gives us. I’m so glad This tough time could be a time for your daughter to grow.

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    1. Thanks so much T.R. I am thankful too! ❤️ Thanks for stopping by – it’s been a while since we have spoken! Hope you are doing well! Your writing is still beautiful as ever – I barely read much on here but I get yours in my email ❤️ Blessings!

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      1. ❤ I have been about a month behind on reading a bunch of people, so trying to catch up and check in. 🙂 Thank you so much!!!

        Overall doing well. Been having a lot of sickness scares in my family, and surgeries. When one gets better, someone else gets news. Striving to seek Him in all things.

        How are things your way 🙂

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