Sounds simple and like a ‘duh’ statement to make – “Be happy for others.” But this is pretty hard for a lot of people.
I think people want to be genuinely happy for others but in comes human nature and feelings of all things other than happiness.
It’s okay to admit those other feelings. It is okay to not agree or share in the same connections as someone else. But it is necessary to treat others the way the you would want to be treated. Encourage them. Pat them on the back for their accomplishments. Congratulate them. Share in their joy.
Most of the time when one is not happy with another’s success or excitement, it is something within themselves they are displeased with. If this is the case, start by setting goals for yourself. By being happier for yourself, you are able to be happier for others.
I love what Toni says here, in her blog. She shares her recipe for letting other people’s joy make you happy beginning with giving yourself compassion for when you feel envious. Then, “fake it ‘til you make it” meaning, if you pretend that you’re happy for another person, eventually that pretending becomes genuine.
The easiest way to begin is to start with the people you already love.
Maybe unfriend those who make you feel jealous or that you disagree with.
Practice kindness and love to others and yourself. Lifting others up says a lot about your character.
Judge less. Listen to someone else’s ‘success’ story.
Keep a gratitude journal. There is so much we are all so blessed with.
By being happy for others you will be happier for yourself. Others will be happier and share/encourage you in your successes. You will be motivated to be more successful. Happiness is contagious, spread it!