It is human nature to think selfishly. To think of others, you have to practice and make habits. It takes effort and requires you to think ahead. To help create self-less habits, make a goal list. Start with small goals that are achievable and continue to think on these things. Maybe you could start by listening to a friend’s needs, instead of sharing yours. Maybe you could begin by responding and not reacting to a frustrating situation. A few other areas to practice may be donating time or money to a greater good, being the one to check on a friend or neighbor, practice empathy, and/or practicing appreciation.
There are a ton more ways to practice selflessness and putting others first. Here is another post on Becoming self-less and why it makes us happier. Some are easier and some are really hard for us. Is that an excuse not to practice them or get better? How do we know what to do when we just don’t get this kind of attitude naturally? We go to the Bible!
5 Scriptures to go highlight right now.
Philippians 2:3-4 “Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. 4 Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.”
James 3:14-16 “But if you have bitter envy and self-seeking in your hearts, do not boast and lie against the truth. This wisdom does not descend from above, but is earthly, sensual, demonic. For where envy and self seeking exist, confusion and every evil thing are there. vs. 18, Now, the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.”
2 Timothy 3:1-5 “But know this, that in the last days perilous times will come: For men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, unloving, unforgiving, slanderers, without self-control, brutal, despisers of good, traitors, headstrong, haughty, lovers of pleasure rather thanlovers of God, having a form of godliness but denying
Ephesians 4:29-32 “Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness, wrath, anger,clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.
1 Corinthians 13:1-13 “Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it profits me nothing.
Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part. But when that which is perfect has come, then that which is in part will be done away.
When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things. For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known.
And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.”
If we continuously work to improve ourselves in showing consideration for others, we would see a change in our lives and our habits. This would produce change in everyone around us.
Kindness is self-less. Kindness is contagious. Kindness is attractive. Kindness is free. Kindness is simple. Kindness is power. Kindness gives back. Kindness is love.
Practice more kindness, less selfishness, and be the change.