Raising children with integrity


Our responsibility to raise our children should be considered a privilege. Whether we get hours a day to spend with them or just a few short hours each day, that time should be precious and a time to teach. I remind myself of this daily.

My consciousness seems to be in constant battle with the devil on one shoulder feeding me lies, guilt, and temptations, while the angel is on the other, rooting for me and helping me to slow down, breathe, and create balance.

It is far too convenient to take the easy road. Minimal effort is required to entertain children with electronics and big houses, selfish and worldly pleasures, and the distractions of ‘busyness’. We seem to be outgrowing our need for God and our physical conversations are seemingly weaker while we are becoming more superficial human beings.

“For what good is it for someone to gain the whole world, yet forfeit their soul” Mark 8:36

If we want to see change in our country, in our churches, and in our communities, we have to train our children to be good citizens. We need to teach them to base their lives on facts and not on demeaning others. We need to teach them confidence and not to take things so personal. We need to teach them integrity by our own behaviors, habits and by the way we love them and others.

By using the time that we have and slowing down to meet the needs of our children is the most important gift we can give to them… to God and to our country’s hope for a future. We can’t just have good intentions. We need convictions that change us. This is where we build or break our integrity. This is where we shape our children.

“Whoever walks in integrity walks securely,

but whoever takes the crooked paths will be found out.”

Proverbs 10:9

Three approaches to helping build integrity in our children:

  • Use the small teachable moments.
  • Be proactive instead of react.
  • Forgive when they fail.

My God does each of these for me daily and thankfully so, my children deserve that grace as well.

So I pray that I continue to have those convicting battle on my shoulders because parenting is hard, and it is a slippery slope if I take the easy road. If parenting were easy, we would be doing something wrong.

“The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; His mercies never come to an end; They are new every morning. great is your faithfulness.” Lamentations 





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  1. I was told that integrity is who you are when you think no one else is watching. There are many times I think my children are not watching, then I see them engage in less desirable behaviors that look oddly familiar. They are always watching, even when we think they aren’t.

    I also like how you bring up being proactive. I think too often parents try to teach when the mistake has already been made. This can be hard for kids to process because they are dealing with the emotions of bad choices plus figuring out what they should have done differently. Proactive teaching can be done by looking for examples of integrity or good behaviors in others and in themselves when they are making good choices. We have to notice the good more than the wrong.

    Thank you for sharing these thoughts. They’ve given me a lot to think about with my own girls. 🙂


    1. Oh, I love your comments, thank you so much for sharing them! I don’t feel that I made that point clear on being proactive but I’m glad to hear what you took from it and that I could share my view to you in a different light… as your comment even did for me! Thanks Kelly!


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